Short Answers

By Jeff Johnson and Paula Forman

PANDORA’S BOX

Dear Short Answers:
I have a bad feeling that my husband is cheating on me. I would like to purchase and download spy ware for his phone so that I can get answers to questions that he is refusing to answer. As his wife I have a right to know if my home, family and health are in danger. Either way, knowledge is power and peace of mind. I’m interested mainly in Flexi spy and other like programs? What damage could they do? Do they contain a virus or Trojans?? Thanks.
Need to know

Dear Need:
We don’t endorse this type of software because it is not a route that is likely to lead to a “trusting and mutually supportive” relationship in the future. You may discover a lot more than you bargained for — look at we have already learned about you.

DOGGISH TO A FAULT

Dear Short Answers:
I hate dogs. I am not afraid of them. I just hate them. I came home from work last week and my wife had bought a puppy for my two young kids for Christmas. She told me it would be good for them. The kids love the dog and I don’t know what to do. I’m furious at my wife. She said she didn’t ask me because she knew what I would say. How do I get rid of the animal and teach my wife a lesson?
Mad Dad

Dear Mad:
We confess: we are hopelessly and shamelessly pro-dog. Although your wife was naughty in making this decision unilaterally — you have been gamed. If  you get rid of the dog, you are the Cad Dad, however she definitely owes you a big one.

THE SHORT ANSWER IS

Dear Short Answers:
My sister’s daughter has become ultra-orthodox and moved to Israel. I am an atheist and orthodox religious moments are difficult for me to understand or accept. My sister wants me to travel to Israel for my niece’s wedding. I feel I’ll be anywhere from aggravated to outright angry the whole time I’m there, but my sister really wants me there. Money isn’t an object. Should I go?
Sister-act

Dear Sister:
Yes — of course you should go, and behave yourself. We understand the feelings, but sometimes you have to do, what you have to do.

HEAVY LIFTING

Dear Short Answers:
I am dating someone who feels he doesn’t have to pick up the phone and call me. It’s been six months. He says he’s not used to being in a relationship. I like him, but he complains about everything. Do I continue to make it work with him? We have tried talking it out but he continues to do the same thing and he expects me to just understand and compromise all the time. But he’s not making an effort.
Doing it Solo

Dear Solo:
This guy is way too much work. Sound’s like he’s just not that into you. Sorry.

YOU AKSED

Dear Short Answers:
My sister-in-law served food made by a caterer on Christmas Eve without telling us!  Although it was quite tasty I think she owed us an explanation! I could have outed her — I saw the plastic containers! What do you think?
She Cheated!

Dear Cheated:
We think your sister-in-law is smart and you are stupid.

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