Letter to The Editor / ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL
Roger C. Kostmayer
A strong cultural tide is changing how Americans view sexual assaults and sexual harassment, and how those who are accused of committing these offenses should be judged and punished in the court of public opinion.
The higher standards of behavior, openness and support for victims is long overdue, and the abuse of power by sexual predators throughout our society should no longer be tolerated. Increasingly, those accused are being held accountable. But as important and beneficial as this evolution is, “zero tolerance” is a blunt instrument with echos of witch hunts. What is required is thoughtful solutions consistent with a safe society.
Both double parking and vehicular homicide are illegal and unethical, but the appropriate due process and punishment for each offense is and should be quite different. The standards to which all of us should be held, and punishment for a range of sexual offenses, should be clear and fair to both accusers and accused. Failure to do so creates situations we’ve seen in the past where deadly punishment comes from mobs shouting “off with their heads” (or, today, “zero tolerance”); or a Senator Joe McCarthy’s accusations destroy the lives of thousands of innocent people suspected of being politically incorrect.
As America goes through this important transition (and addresses offenses that range from rape and child molestation to rude and unwanted obnoxious behavior), we need to insure that the victims are heard and treated fairly, the accused have due process, and the punishment fits the crime.
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The British legacy of Queen Victoria in our realm has emasculated the Anglo-Saxon society to the point that men have become sheepish puppy dogs. Women run the roost. Are men really happy playing second fiddle instead of being the main providers and the alpha male nature created them for? The head of the household has become an exception rather than the rule and women aren’t necessarily better off as a consequence. Inevitably, women lose respect for the man who doesn’t hold his end of the bargain and infidelity becomes rampant. Western women who are currently being seduced to go fight with ISIS is a stark reminder that women weren’t created to be feminists. Try explaining how a 26 old woman would want to marry Charles Manson, a convicted killer. Men in our society who allow their women to degrade themselves with tattoos certainly can’t claim to be real men. Parading them naked in the streets of Key West during Fantasy Fest doesn’t make other men jealous as much as to bring pity for the poor schmuck who succumbs to such lewd exhibitionism.
The matriarchal society is all pervasive in the western realm, however, and has principally been institutionalized by the Vatican. It’s all about Virgin Mary, the mother of God, with the son God taking a second fiddle in that equation. While in France, I asked a neighbor lady what the Ascension religious holiday was all about. She told me that it was to celebrate virgin Mary’s rise to heaven. I asked where in the Bible was there any mention of that event, she could not reply. I made a mistake of saying that it more than likely was an invention of her church. She never talked to me again. When faith and superstition are intertwined, one never knows where one stops and the other one begins.
The number of fresh rich widows is a living testament to men having given up the ghost in more ways than one. It is not only because women outlive men on the average but because men work themselves into extinction while women enjoy the fruit of their labor. What’s equitable about that? Besides, what real man really needs to amass riches at the expense of losing his soul? That type of fools’ gold only provides a short-lived glitter of excitement without truly bringing long term happiness. Women are capable of great feats and great women have risen to the occasion but they proportionately represent a tiny minority.
Golda Meyer or Margaret Thatcher may have been the right women at the right time but Hillary Clinton certainly is not. She epitomizes all that is wrong with the western emasculated society. Yes, it does make a difference as to who is at the helm, as Ambassador Christopher Stevens found out and paid the ultimate sacrifice discovering it. If she isn’t willing to fess up to why she allowed such a tragedy to occur, how can she be trusted for even more important duties?
Modern day slavery replaced the family cocoon when women were coaxed into entering the work force and competing with other men. All members of the family are induced to earn their own keep and to garner a career at the expense of the family nucleus. Is it any wonder that kids get in trouble? They come back from school to an empty home and are expected to have the discipline to do what they were told. Temptations abound and technology keeps them tuned to another reality, one that is beyond the reach of most parents at large.
Until men regain their rightful role as heads of their household, the current state of affairs will invariably continue…especially the victimhood mindset after years of silence.
Women cannot enter the workforce by playing the temptress role and expect men to simply act like eunichs. As the saying goes: You mess with the bull and you get the horns.